I’m the type of man that has to keep a calendar for everything. My wife often laughs at the constant dings she hears from my cell phone calendar reminding me of one thing or another.
I do not like to be late and I hate to forget something important, so everything and I do mean everything is written down.
Recently I was reminded of the old adage, if you want to know what is truly important to someone, all you have to do is look at their checkbook and their calendar.
The scriptures tell us in Matthew 6:21, “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”
What you make the center of your life, will become your treasure, what you value most. We can’t say that our children are the top priority in our life but be so overscheduled that we can’t find more than 15 or 20 minutes to spend with them. We can’t say that our priority is our children and yet a majority of our extra income is spent on activities for ourselves.
As fathers we say that nothing is more important to us than our relationship with our children, that our greatest desire is to build a strong and lasting legacy that is rooted in Christ, then shouldn’t our checkbooks and calendars reflect that?
If you had asked me, before writing this post, how well I was doing in this area, I would have told you fairly well. However, as I took a glance at my calendar, I realized that except for Saturday swim lessons, there weren’t many scheduled activities with my son. There were plenty of meetings, church related events or appointments but no time specifically set aside for him.
I love my son more than anything in this life but that wasn’t reflected in how I spent my time. This realization was a blow to the gut and caused my heart to hurt. In reality, I wasn’t being the intentional dad that I thought I was.
But I’m learning that fatherhood is a journey. No one gets’s it right straight out of the gate. It’s about making adjustments ever day and being better than the day before.
So this has become my challenge, to set aside time for me to spend time with my son and to make it a priority. To make sure that my calendar and my checkbook reflect where my heart truly is.
Psalm 127:3 tells us that, “Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”
Our children are our legacy, our heritage and they are a gift granted to us by God. Let’s make sure that we treat them as such and make them a priority in our lives.