Folks, it’s official. I’m dad tired. Exhausted. Clinging to the end of my rope.
I’m not unhappy. I’m just tired!
I first heard the phrase “dad tired” from my friend Jerrad Lopes who has a podcast by the same name (If you haven’t already, you should subscribe and can thank me later). Since then it has become my mantra. My perpetual state of being. Part of me was even a little proud to call myself, “dad tired.”
But I have to be honest, a little vulnerable and admit something that I’m not proud of.
Lately “dad tired” has morphed into “dad angry.”
I’m not unhappy. I’m just TIRED!
I’m pulled in so many directions with work, family, church, volunteering (I have a hard time saying no), renovating our house, and studying for my professional accreditation that I fail to set aside time to recharge physically or spiritually.
That means, at times, I’m irritable, my patience is thin and I’m not a lot of fun to be around. My family deserves better. They deserve the best parts of me. They deserve the funny, smiling, optimistic, patient, dad and husband.
In these times I am reminded of the Apostle Paul’s words, “For I do not understand my own actions [I am baffled and bewildered by them]. I do not practice what I want to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate [and yielding to my human nature, my worldliness—my sinful capacity].”
I know what kind of dad and husband I want and should be but at times I allow my exhaustion to get the better of me. I allow my tiredness to turn into thoughts of being unvalued, unappreciated, and continually criticized. This, in turn, makes me hypersensitive to any words I perceive to be negative.
It’s a cycle. One that I have yet to learn to break.
But I know, I love my family too much not to keep trying to be the best I can be. I also know it’s what God called me to be and He never calls us to be failures.
In my weakness, I cling to one thing, the peace I find in knowing this — “casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully].”
I’ve learned in these times that we must cast all our worries on Him. Knowing that He cares more than we can imagine. Remembering the promise that, “…those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] Will gain new strength and renew their power; They will lift up their wings [and rise up close to God] like eagles [rising toward the sun]; They will run and not become weary, They will walk and not grow tired.”
Being “dad tired” is something every father experiences. Some may be able to persevere better than others but we have all dealt with it. If, like me, this is something you struggle with, know you aren’t alone.
You pray for me and I’ll pray for you.
**All scriptures in this post are from the Amplified Edition of the Bible**